Showing posts with label Muhammad. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Muhammad. Show all posts

Monday, November 19, 2012

Friend in Need, Friend Indeed

Always Help Your Brother
 Allah said, "Be good to others, for Allah loves those who are good."
The Prophet Peace Be Upon Him said, "For me to walk with my brother to fulfill his need Until it is fulfilled is more beloved to me than making it’ikaf ( staying ) in this mosque of mine for a month!"
He also said, "The one who helps his brother in need, Allah helps him when he is in need."
The Prophet Peace Be Upon Him would be walking in the street and a slave-girl would stop him, saying, “I need your help." He would remain with her until he would hear her needs. He would then go with her to her master to fulfill her needs. In fact, the Prophet Peace Be Upon Him used to mix with people and have patience over their harms. He used to treat them all with a merciful soul, tearful eyes, a preaching tongue and a loving heart. He would feel that he and others were one body. He would feel the poor man's poverty, the sad person's grief, the ill man's disease and the needy one's needs.
Just look at how, as he sat in his mosque speaking to his Companions, he would see a group of people coming to him from afar. He wouldnotice that they were a group of poor people coming from Mudhar in the direction of Najd. Due to their extreme poverty, they were wearing garments made of wool having white and black stripes. Some of them would find a piece of cloth, but wouldn't have the money to buy a needle and thread in order to stitch it together. Therefore, they would tear it from the middle, poke their heads through the hole, and allow the garment to fall and cover their bodies. They had come wearing such garments, with their swords hanging around their necks.
They did not have any lower garments, turbans, or cloaks.
When the Prophet Peace Be Upon Him saw how hard they were struggling and that they had nothing to wear or eat, his complexion changed. He stood up and went off to his house but couldn't find anything to give in charity. He left and entered another one of his houses, looking for something to give, but couldn't find anything there either.
He then went to the mosque, prayed the Dhuhr prayer and climbed up to the pulpit. He thanked and praised Allah and said,
"To proceed, Allah has said in His Book:
'0 mankind! Be careful of your duty to your Lord Who created you from a single soul and from it created its mate and from them two has spread abroad a multitude of men and women. Be careful of your duty toward Allah in Whom you claim (your rights) of one another, and toward the wombs (that bear you).
Indeed! Allah has been a watcher over you:
He then recited: '0 you who believe! Observe your duty to Allah. And let every soul look to that which it sends on before for the tomorrow. And observe your duty to Allah. Indeed! Allah is Aware of what you do: He recited more verses, admonished the believers and said in a loud voice, "Give in charity before you are unable to give it anymore! Give in charity before you are prevented from doing so!" A man gave charity from his Dinar, another gave from his Dirham, another gave from his wheat and another gave from his barley. He further said, "Let no one of you belittle whatever you give in charity:' He began to mention the various items people may give in charity until he mentioned," ... even if it were a piece of date." A man from the Ansaar rose with a package in his hand, and, the Messenger of Allah Peace Be Upon Him took hold of it while he was on the pulpit. When the Prophet Peace Be Upon Him took it, a sense of joy was apparent on his face.
He said, "Whoever initiates a good practice and acts accordingly he will have its reward along with the reward of anyone who acts according to that practice, without there being any decrease in their reward. And whoever initiates a bad practice and acts accordingly, he will bear its burden along with the burden of all those who act according to it, without there being any decrease in their burdens."
The people got up, left for their homes and returned with charity. One came with a Dinar, another came with a Dirham, another came with dates whilst another came with clothes, until two piles accumulated in front of the Prophet Peace Be Upon Him a pile of food and a pile of clothes. When the Prophet Peace Be Upon Him saw this, his face brightened like the moon. He then divided it up amongst the poor people. (Muslim) Yes! The Prophet Peace Be Upon Him used to enter people's hearts by fulfilling their needs. He would spend his strength, time and his wealth for their sake.
When ‘A’ishah RadiAllah Unha was asked about the Prophet's behavior at home, she said, "He would either be fulfilling the needs of his family members, or serving them."
Wouldn't you like to make your way into people's hearts by fulfilling their needs?

Tuesday, November 6, 2012

We can disagree and Still be Friends

We can disagree and still be friend
It is mentioned that ash-Shafi'i - may Allah have mercy on him - debated a scholar over a complex legal issue. They differed and argued for a long time, during which they raised their voices and failed to convince each other. The other scholar's complexion changed and he became angry and felt hurt. When the meeting ended and they decided to leave, al-Shafi'i turned to the scholar, took hold of his hand and said, "Why can't we differ and still be brothers?"
Some scholars of Hadith once sat in the presence of a Caliph. One of the scholars in the gathering narrated a Hadith, and thereupon, another scholar became very surprised and said, "This is not a Hadith! From where did you get it? Are you lying upon the Messenger of Allah Peace be Upon Him ?"
The scholar replied, "To the contrary, this is a well-established Hadith!"
The other scholar said, "No! We have never heard this Hadith nor memorized it!"
In the gathering there was an intelligent vizier. He turned to the scholar and said very gently,"0 Shaykh, have you memorized all of the Hadith of the Prophet Peace Be Upon Him ?"
"No", the scholar replied.
The vizier asked, "So did you memories half of them?"
"Perhaps", the scholar replied.
The vizier replied, "Then consider this Hadith to be from the half you have not memorized!" and that was the end of the problem.
Al-Fudhayl bin 'Ayadh and 'Abdullah bin al-Mubarak were two close friends who would never leave each other. They were both modest scholars 'Abdullah bin al-Mubarak decided to go for Jihad and join the garrison troops for guard duty at the frontiers, while al-Fudhayl bin 'Ayadh decided to stay in the Haram to pray and worship Allah.
One day, his heart melted and he began to weep Al -Fudhayl was sitting in the Haram and worshipping Allah. He longed for his friend, Ibn al-Mubarak, and recalled their gatherings in which they would remember Allah. Thus, al-Fudhayl wrote to Ibn al-Mubarak asking him to come to the Haram for worship, remembrance of Allah and recitation of the Qur'an.
When Ibn al-Mubarak read al-Fudhayl's letter, he took a piece of paper and wrote to al-Fudhayl:
"0 you who worships in the vicinity of the Two Holy Mosques! If you but see us, you will realize that you are only jesting in worship. He who brings wetness to his cheek with his tears should know. Our necks become wet with our blood, he who tires his horses without purpose, now that our horses are getting tired in battle.
The scent of perfume is yours, while ours is the glimmer of spears and the stench of dust [in battle]. We were narrated about in the speech of our Prophet, An authentic statement that never lies that the dust that erupts by Allah's horses and which fills the nostrils of a man shall never be combined with the smoke of a raging Fire. This, the Book of Allah speaks to us. Is that the martyr is not dead, and this cannot be denied.
He then said, "From Allah's slaves are those whom Allah has blessed with fasting. They fast like no other people. From them are those blessed with recitation of the Qur'an. From them are those blessed with seeking knowledge. From them are those blessed with Jihad, and from them are those blessed with praying at night. What you are engrossed in is not better than what I am engrossed in. Both of us are involved in something good. This is how gently the dispute ended between the two of them, by simply saying, "Both of us are doing good," and as Allah says, "Your Lord creates what He wills and chooses:'
This was the way of the Companions.
A group of disbelievers got together and rallied to fight the Muslims in Madinah. They came with an army the like of which was never witnessed amongst the Arabs, in terms of numbers and weapons.
In response, the Muslims dug up trenches which were" not able to be crossed in order to enter Madinah. Hence, the disbelieving army was kept behind the trenches. In Madinah, there was a tribe called Banu Quraydhah. They were Jews, lying in wait for the believers. They turned to the disbelievers to help them and began to cause mischief and disorder in Madinah, whilst the Muslims were busy guarding the city at the trenches.
The days passed with great difficulty until Allah sent wind and His hidden army against the disbelievers that tore their army apart. They turned back in failure, dragging their belongings back with them in the darkness of the night.
When the Messenger of Allah Peace Be upon Him woke up the next morning, he departed from the trenches for Madinah. The Muslims put their weapons down and returned home. The Messenger of Alllah Peace Be Upon Him entered his home, put his weapons down and took a bath.
When the time for Dhuhr prayer entered, Jibril came and called the Messenger of Allah Peace Be upon Him from outside his house. The Messenger of Allah Peace Be upon Him instantly stood up in fear. Jibril  said to him,
"Have you put down your weapons, 0 Messenger of Allah?"
"Yes", the Prophet replied. Jibril said, "The angels have not yet put down their weapons. I have just come back, having chased them away. We chased them until we reached Hamra al-Asad", meaning, they chased the Quraysh away when they left Madinah for Makkah. The angels were following them and chasing them away from Madinah. Jibreel then said, "Allah has ordered you to head for Banu Quraydhah, for I am heading towards them to shake the earth beneath them:'
The Messenger of Allah Peace Be Upon Him then ordered a man to make an announcement, "Whosoever hears and obeys, let him not pray the 'Asr prayer except in Banu Quraydhah." The men dashed to grab their weapons, they heard and obeyed and went to the dwellings of Banu Quraydhah, but as they were on their way, the time for 'Asr prayer entered upon them. Some of them said, "We will not pray 'Asr except in Banu Quraydhah's dwellings." Others argued, "Rather, we will pray now, for this wasn't what the Prophet meant. He only wanted us to hurry."
They prayed Asr and continued with their journey, while others delayed the prayer until they reached Banu Quraydhah. When this was mentioned to the Prophet Peace Be Upon Him, he did not chastise any of the two groups. The Prophet Peace Be Upon Him then besieged Banu Quraydhah until Allah gave him victory over them. Consider how they used to differ amongst each other as brothers, such that their differences would not lead to discord, argumentation and people turning against each other.
Believe me, if you deal with the people with ease and gentleness, and with an open mind, they will love you and you would thereby enter into their hearts. And before all of this, Allah would love you, for discord is something always negative.

Thursday, October 18, 2012

The Plots Can Not Succeed, Armies Cannot Win

The Plots Can Not Succeed, Armies Cannot Win
There are plots, there are conspiracies, and history of more than 1400 years has proved beyond any doubt they will not succeed. They will never succeed in their plots. Allah the Most Exalted will always help the Momin to destroy such plots. In this story how Allah SubhaWaTala guided the ruler Nooruddin Zangi about the plot and he destroyed it.
We have Faith, and InshaAllah We will fight for the Honor of Our Believed Prophet, We love Him and Allah SubhanWaTala more than our lives, more than anything else and we will die for His Honor. This is true and this is absolute words of truth. We will keep our promise we have blood flowing in our body and history has proved it again and again.

My dear friend this is the time to keep our promise, to Protect the Honor of Our Prophet Peace Be Upon Him. This can be done with just words, no, commit yourself fully to Allah and His Messenger.  
قُلْ إِنَّ صَلَاتِي وَنُسُكِي وَمَحْيَايَ وَمَمَاتِي لِلَّهِ رَبِّ الْعَالَمِينَ ﴿6:162﴾

لَا شَرِيكَ لَهُ وَبِذَلِكَ أُمِرْتُ وَأَنَا أَوَّلُ الْمُسْلِمِينَ ﴿6:163﴾

(6:162) Say: 'Surely my Prayer, all my acts of worship, *143and my living and my dying are for Allah alone, the Lord of the whole universe.
(6:163) He has no associate. Thus have I been bidden, and I am the foremost of those who submit themselves (to Allah).`

وَإِنَّكَ لَعَلى خُلُقٍ عَظِيمٍ ﴿68:4﴾
(68:4) and you are certainly on the most exalted standard of moral excellence.

لَقَدْ كَانَ لَكُمْ فِي رَسُولِ اللَّهِ أُسْوَةٌ حَسَنَةٌ لِمَنْ كَانَ يَرْجُو اللَّهَ وَالْيَوْمَ الْآَخِرَ وَذَكَرَ اللَّهَ كَثِيرًا ﴿33:21﴾
(33:21) Surely there was a good example for you in the Messenger of Allah, for all those who look forward to Allah and the Last Day and remember Allah much.  

That is, "The Prophet's life is model for the person who him who remembers Allah much and consistently and not only occasionally just by chance. It is most surely a model for the person who is hopeful of Allah's grace and His favors, and who is also mindful that the Day of Judgment will come when his well-being will wholly depend on how closely his conduct resembled the conduct and character of the Messenger of Allah in this world. "

Allah (S.W.T.) endowed him with exalted standard of character for us to follow. Every aspect of his life has been fully dealt with, providing complete guidance to the whole mankind. For our guidance, Allah (S.W.T.) commands us to believe and obey His Messenger (p.b.u.h.):

قُلْ إِنْ كُنْتُمْ تُحِبُّونَ اللَّهَ فَاتَّبِعُونِي يُحْبِبْكُمُ اللَّهُ وَيَغْفِرْ لَكُمْ ذُنُوبَكُمْ وَاللَّهُ غَفُورٌ رَحِيمٌ ﴿3:31﴾
(3:31) (O Messenger!) Tell people: 'If you indeed love Allah, follow me, and Allah will love you and will forgive you your sins. Allah is All-Forgiving, All-Compassionate.'

How will we protect the Honor, there may many answers to the question. Many of them are true. Let us promise ourselves we will protect His Honor, by following the Path Messenger of Allah shown to us. Prophet is best example for us if we want to succeed Here and Hereafter, the only way is adopt it in our Life. Adopt the role model, which we clay we love, my dear friends the only way to prove, “We Love” our Prophet Peace Be Upon Him is adopting it in our life.
Changes, Change starts from self, and call the people to this Great Change, when we start this journey of change from self, and start calling everyone to this change. Prophet is Mercy to Mankind, He is Prophet for All.  Change yourself to Islam, in Day and In Night, call everyone to this. This is way to Protect The Honor of Our Prophet Peace be Upon Him, whom we love most.

History books contain the mention of an amazing incident that took place in the year 557. At the time, the 'Abbasid dynasty was experiencing a sharp decline. As the lands of the Muslims became plagued by weakness and even chaos, some Christians got together and plotted to remove the Prophet's body from his grave and to transport it back to their own lands, in what would obviously be a serious blow to the morale of the Muslims.
For this diabolical plot, they sent two men to Madinah, both of whom disguised themselves in Moroccan garments and claimed to be travelers who came to visit the holy city.
The two men stayed in a well-known house that was adjacent to the Prophet's Masjid. In order to blend in with their milieu, they performed acts of worship in a conspicuous manner, always hoping to be seen by others in order to gain their trust. But on the inside, they were plotting to achieve the task for which they had been sent.
Having come up with a plan that, at least in their minds, was sure to work, they began to execute it. They secretly began to dig a tunnel from inside their house, and by continuing to dig, they hoped to eventually reach the
Prophet's grave. Every day, they would dig a little bit, placing the extra dirt in bags. They of course did not want to be seen by anyone when they would dispose of the extra dirt, and so they would get rid of it while they would take their daily walk in Al-Baqi', the famous graveyard of Madinah. As they would walk through the graveyard, they would slowly pour out the dirt from underneath their cloaks. And all the while they would be giving others the impression that they were visiting the graveyard in order to remember death and the hereafter.
At times, they would also spill the excess dirt into a well that was near their home. After many days of secret toil, the two men were finally near the grave of the Prophet
Feeling sure now that they would succeed in their mission, they began to concentrate their thoughts on concocting a plan to actually transport the Prophet's body to their homeland. But they could plot and plan as much as they wanted, for Allah had other plans for them, and what He wills, He does. Far away from Madinah, the ruler during that era, Nuruddin Muhammad bin Zangi, saw a troubling dream. In that dream, he saw the Prophet ~ pointing to two men of red complexion, and instructing Nuruddin Muhammad to protect him from them. Nuruddin
Muhammad then woke up, both frightened and agitated. In order to calm his nerves, he stood up to pray, .after which he went back to sleep. But during that night, he saw the same dream three times. When he woke up the third time, he summoned one of his ministers to come to him. That minister was Jamaluddin Al-Musili, a wise minister who was a practicing, righteous Muslim. When the ruler finished telling him about his dream, Jamaluddin said, "This is concerning something that is happening in Madinah. Go now to the Prophet's city and keep secret what you have seen."
For the remainder of that night, Nuruddin Muhammad made preparations to leave. 20 mounts were loaded, and 20 men, one of them being Jamaluddin, made preparations to go with their leader. They made the journey from Ash-Sham (Syria and surrounding regions) ' to Madinah in 16 days. When, they reached ·their destination, Nuruddin Muhamma went to -Ar-Rauda (a special place in the Prophet's Masjid) and prayed, but as of yet, he had no idea what he should do about his dream.
His minister, Jamaluddin, asked him if he remembered what the two people he saw in his dream looked like. Nuruddin Muhammad said that he remembered them clearly, and that if he were to see them now, he would certainly recognize them. Jamaluddin had a plan to apprehend the two men, and he immediately put it into action. When the inhabitants of Madinah were gathered in the Masjid, Iamaluddin made the following announcement: "Indeed, the ruler has brought with him a great deal of wealth that has been earmarked for charity. Have the poor ones among you register their names, and then bring them, so that each can take his fair share."
While each person came to take a share of the handout, Nuruddin Muhammad was standing right there, looking at each person, in the hope of seeing one or both of the men he saw in his dream. Many people came and went, but Nuruddin Muhammad saw no one who resembled either of the two men.
He then asked, "Is there anyone left who still has not taken his share?" Someone said, "There remain two men from Morocco; they refuse to take their share, and indeed, they are both very righteous." "Bring them to me," were the immediate words that came out of Nuruddin Muhammad's mouth. When the two men were brought before him, Nuruddin Muhammad immediately recognized them: they were the two men that the Prophet PBUH pointed to in his dream. Nuruddin asked them, "Where are you from?" They said, "We are from the West, and we have come here in order to perform Hajj. After we arrived, we decided to stay here this year." Perhaps their plot was not exactly clear to Nuruddin at that moment, but he knew they were guilty of something, and so he continued to interrogate them, hoping that they would confess their crime, whatever it was. But they kept to their story, and with no proof against them, Nuruddin couldn't justly take any steps against them. Nuruddin then ordered for their home to be searched. After a thorough search, they found nothing peculiar save a large amount of money that the two men had stored in their home. As everyone began to file out of the two men's home, Allah guided Nuruddin to look at the wooden floor. One of its boards was loose, and Nuruddin stooped down to have a closer look. He realized that the board was not attached solidly to the floor, and so he picked it up. The people of Madinah were shocked to see the entrance of a tunnel and even more shocked to see where it led to, for they had been certain that the two men were righteous Muslims.
After being beaten by the irate ruler, the two men confessed that they weren't really from the West, but were instead two Christians who had been sent by their leaders with a great deal of wealth that was paid to them upfront for the job of removing the Prophet PBUH from his grave and transporting the body back to their lands. Nuruddin ordered for the two men to be executed and for the tunnel to be blocked up and filled with dirt. When these two orders were executed, he returned to Ash-Sham. And Allah knows best. .

Armies Can Not Win
أَلَمْ تَرَ كَيْفَ فَعَلَ رَبُّكَ بِأَصْحَابِ الْفِيلِ ﴿105:1﴾
(105:1) Have you not seen * how your Lord dealt with the people of the elephants?
أَلَمْ يَجْعَلْ كَيْدَهُمْ فِي تَضْلِيلٍ ﴿105:2﴾
(105:2) Did He not bring their plan to naught?
وَأَرْسَلَ عَلَيْهِمْ طَيْرًا أَبَابِيلَ ﴿105:3﴾
(105:3) And He sent against them swarms of birds
تَرْمِيهِمْ بِحِجَارَةٍ مِنْ سِجِّيلٍ ﴿105:4﴾
(105:4) which smote them with stones of baked clay,
فَجَعَلَهُمْ كَعَصْفٍ مَأْكُولٍ ﴿105:5﴾
(105:5) and made them like straw eaten up (by cattle).

Friday, August 3, 2012

Admit your faults and do not be arrogant ...

Admit your faults and do not be arrogant ...
Many problems that cause enmity to continue for a year or two years, or perhaps for life, can easily be solved by one person saying to another; "I made a mistake. I am sorry."
There occurred an argument between Abu Dharr and Bilal  may Allah be pleased with them both - and even though they were both Companions of the Prophet iii, they were still human. During the argument, Abu Dharr became angry and said to Bilal, "0 son of a black woman!" Thereupon, Bilal complained to the Messenger of Allah  Peace Be Upon Him.The Prophet called Abu Dharr and said, "Did you insult Bilal?"
He replied, "Yes:' The Prophet said, "Did you mention his mother?"
He replied, "When someone is insulted, usually his father and mother are also mentioned, 0 Messenger of Allah!"
The Prophet replied, "You are a man with traits of pre- Islamic ignorance:'
He asked, "Even when I am this old?"
The Prophet replied, "Yes:'
The Prophet Peace Be Upon Him then taught him the manner in which he should deal with those who may be seen as below his social status, saying, "They are only your brothers. Allah has placed them in your care. And whoever Allah places in one's care then let him feed him with what he eats himself, clothe him with what he clothes himself. Let him not overburden him with that which he cannot bear. And if person does overburden him, then let him lend him a hand."
What did Abu Dharr do then?
Abu Dharr went to see Bilal and apologized. He sat on the ground in front of Bilal and he became closer to the ground until he rested his cheek on the dust, and said, "0 Bilal! Put your foot on my cheek!" (Muslim)
This is how eager the Companions were to set out the flames of enmity before they became strong, and even if they became strong, they would do their best to prevent them from spreading.
A disagreement took place between Abu Bakr and 'Umar; where Abu Bakr made 'Umar angry. 'Umar went away from Abu Bakr in a state of anger. When Abu Bakr saw this, he regretted it and feared that the situation may exacerbate. Thus he went after 'Umar saying, "Forgive me, O 'Umar!" But 'Umar refused to turn to him. Abu Bakr kept apologizing and following 'Umar until he reached his home .and shut the door in Abu Bakr's face. Upon this, Abu Bakr went to the Messenger of Allah When the Prophet saw him coming from afar; he noticed something different about him and said, 'This Companion of ours seems to be in trouble."
Abu Bakr sat down quietly, and it wasn't long until' Umar also regretted his mistake. May Allah be pleased with them all! How pure were their hearts! 'Umar headed to the Prophet's gathering, greeted everyone and sat down next to the Prophet and told him the story, along with how he turned away from Abu Bakr and did not accept his apology.
The Messenger of Allah became angry. When Abu Bakr saw his anger; he began to say, "By Allah, 0 Messenger of Allah! This is only because I was the wrongdoer. I was the wrongdoer!"
He began to defend and make excuses for 'Umar.
The Prophet Peace Be Upon Him said, "Will you leave my Companion alone? Will you leave my Companion alone? When I said; “O people! I am the Messenger of Allah to you all', all of you said, 'You have lied!'
Yet Abu Bakr said, 'You have spoken the truth!'" (al-Bukhari)
Be careful not to be from those who rectify others while corrupting their own souls. Such people go around in circles with their faults like a donkey going around a mill. Hence, if you ever are in a position to advise others or be an example to those, such as a teacher with his students, a father or a mother with his or her children, then think as if you are under the watch of your customers. Everyone is monitoring you.
Always discipline yourself as much as possible. The same applies to a couple dealing with each other.
Lastly, if you would like others to accept your comments or advice, no matter who they may be, your wife, son or your sister; then be receptive to advice yourself without being arrogant.
If you will, let us travel back in time to Madinah and look at the Messenger of Allah while he was making I'tikaaf in his mosque in one of the nights of Ramadan. There came his wife, Safiyyah bint Huyay, to visit him and stayed with him for a while.
 She then rose to go back to her house. The Prophet did not like for her to go back home in the darkness of the night, so he decided to go with her. He walked some of the way with her until two men from the Ansaar passed by him.  When they saw the Prophet with a woman they began to walk fast upon seeing this, the Prophet said to them, "Take your time! She is only Safiyyah bint Huyay." They said, "SubhanAllah!" meaning, does it make sense that we should assume that you are walking with a strange woman?
The Prophet said, "Indeed, the devil flows through the human being like blood in the veins. I feared that he may place evil in your hearts, or may whisper something to you ... " (al-Bukhari and Muslim)

Wednesday, May 9, 2012

How to Improve and Correct People's Mistakes

Look at the Prophet's approach in this regard. One day he decided to advise 'Abdullah bin 'Umar to pray the night prayers.
He did not call him and say,"0 'Abdullah, pray the night prayer!" Rather, he advised him as if he was making a suggestion saying, "How nice is 'Abdullah! If only he were to pray the night prayers also!" In another narration he said,"0 'Abdullah, do not be like so-and-so. He used to pray at night, but then he left it."
In fact, if you are able to bring his mistake to his attention without him realising, then this is the best approach. A man sneezed in the company of 'Abdullah bin al-Mubarak but did not say:'al-Hamdulillah'. So 'Abdullah bin al-Mubarak said, "What does a person say when he sneezes?",
He said, "al-Hamdulillah,'
'Abdullah bin al-Mubarak said, "YarhamukAllah" (May Allah have mercy on you).
The Prophet Peace Be Upon Him had a similar approach. When he would conclude his 'Asr prayer, he would visit his wives one-by-one to sit and talk with them. Once he visited Zaynab bint Jahsh and found honey with her. The Prophet Peace Be Upon Him used to love honey and other sweets. He began to drink honey and talk to her, and ended up staying with her for longer than he would stay with anyone else.
Thereupon, 'A'ishah and Hafsah became jealous and planned that whoever of the two the Prophet visits should say, "I find that you smell of Maghafir!" Maghafir is a sweet drink, similar to honey but has an unpleasant smell. The Prophet Peace Be upon Him was always concerned that his body or mouth did not smell bad, as he used to speak with Jibril and the people. When he visited Hafsah she asked him what he had eaten.
He said, '" had some honey to drink when I visited Zaynab."
She said, "I find the smell of Maghafir on you!"
He said, "No. I only had some honey to drink. But I won't drink it, again."
He then went to 'A'ishah and she said the same to him. Days went by and Allah finally revealed the secret to the Prophet Peace Be upon Him, after a few days, the Prophet Peace Be upon Him informed Hafsah of a matter in confidence but she betrayed the confidentiality. He visited her one day whilst she had a guest known as ash-Shifa' bint 'Abdullah. She was a female Companion and a medical student who used to treat patients.
The Prophet Peace Be upon Him wanted to bring her attention to her mistake by approaching the issue indirectly, in order to be gentle with her. What did he do?
He said to ash-Shifa',"Wouldn't you teach her the 'incantation of the ants the way you taught her to write?"
The 'incantation of the ants' is what Arab women used to repeat, and everyone knew that it neither harms nor benefits.
The incantation as known amongst the women was composed of the following:
"The bride celebrates, dyes, applies kohl and does everything else, except that she does not disobey her husband"
The Prophet Peace Be upon Him wanted to indirectly to teach Hafsah a lesson by repeating," ...except that she does not disobey her husband:'
How beautiful is this approach towards correcting others' mistakes that leaves love intact in people's hearts, unshaken by errors and unpolluted by excessive offers of advice!
It is possible to drink honey without destroying the honeycomb. Do not advise a person as if he has disbelieved due to his actions! Rather, have good thoughts about him and assume that he made a mistake unintentionally, or without knowing.
"Even a good word is charity," Hadith.